January Yummy mummy
The Yummy mummy section is about the modern mum who is raising children and also about her life shattering glass ceilings!
Here is our Beautiful Beginnings January 2017 Yummy Mummy – Funmi Fatona Ayowole ?
Q:Who are you and what do you do?
Q:How many kids do you have?
A: I have two kids. One from my husband and one between the both of us. The first is a girl and she is 9years old, her name is Omolayo and we call her Molly. The second is 13Months old, his name is Andre.
Q:What Does being a mom mean to you?
A: Being a mom means being a caretaker to the person God has placed in my care. To guide, to protect for the years they are still dependent on me to show them the way, as God would also lead me and my husband.
Q: How do you combine motherhood and your career? You make it look so effortless.
A: No, it is not effortless, and I don’t think I make it look effortless because there are the ups and there are downs to be honest. There are days that it is just not working and I just throw it up in the air and I go “I can’t do this shit!”
There are also days I think I have my routine down pat and everything is going like clockwise and all and it is all good. There are ups and there are downs and there are days in between. Through it all, I try to enjoy the joy of having a baby, having a child, the innocence of it all, the genuine laughter, happiness and every good thing about it. I try to just enjoy it as it comes. And in order to combine it all, I try to make technology work for me, so I try to calenderize, that is set reminders for a lot of things because I don’t know whether it is pregnancy brain or it was post-natal brain, but I just realize that I forget a lot. If I don’t forget, I procrastinate, thinking I can get to it later.
I get the help of my husband who helps with both the little and the big things. We push and divide tasks around just to make the day work seamlessly. So yes I definitely don’t do it by myself, I have a team. Then also the other team I have is the crèche. Andre goes to crèche during the day on weekdays, then I have a support system of friends turned family and family also, my sister in-law, my mother in-law who at various points are able to take him either at weekends or take him for a day if I have an important event, training or meeting on a weekend. So all these people are there around me helping and I do not take them for granted at all.
Q: What do you know now you wish you had known before having children?
A: Hmmmm, what I wish I had known then is that there is no pressure, every child is unique, every situation is unique, so I can’t afford to compare myself to others, to put pressure on myself based on other people’s achievements or what it looks like they are achieving. How they are combining it, how they are doing it like superwoman etc. it is my own race, I am in my own lane basically so I am competing with myself basically. I think that is what pregnancy and motherhood has taught me that I didn’t know before. Not that I didn’t know per se, but it is like a realization that has dawned on me and I am walking in that truth of the fact that I am competing with only myself, no other person no other woman, no other man and that is it.
Q: In what ways do you believe you have grown since being a mom?
A: I am more compassionate, I am more understanding because I know how difficult it can be in my own situation with all the different things I do. So I cut people a lot more slack now, though I can still be a perfectionist to myself but I cut other people slack. I realize that they are handing their own shit while going through life as well and it is tough.
Q: What’s the hardest part to you about being a mom?
A: I think the fact that I have to put other people’s needs above mine. I don’t think first about myself, I want to sleep I will first have to figure out if he is asleep, if he is settled. I want to go out, I have to first ensure he is dressed; his bag is packed, before I can think of getting dressed myself. I want to eat I make sure that he is fed first. So bottom line I put his needs and my husband’s needs above mine. The hardest part is that I think of myself last through all of these.
Q. What do you miss the most about your pre-baby days?
A. Just being able to get up and go. Going to events,lounges, and stay out for a while till 10pm, midnight, 2am with my man. I miss that. I miss that extremely.
Q. What are the weird mom things you do?
A. I’m not sure o.. okay two days ago I was putting his things, his diaper bag, his shoes, his car seat cover in the washing machine, and in removing the car seat I just found it therapeutic *laughs*. It was just strange. I felt calm and peace, doing what I was doing. I wanted to put up a post on social media about the moment but I didn’t know how to express it, like I know I am a mom when I find doing laundry therapeutic. *more laughter*
I don’t think this is weird but another thing I do is I try to lay out what he would wear the night before, pack his bag a night before just so that I am not rushed or flustered concerning him. I may not know what I’m going to wear or what I’m going to eat, but as long as I have his own things laid out and planned, I feel stable and less scattered so I don’t know if that is weird.
Q. Any fitness tips?
A. I sent two pictures on that. I think the most important thing is portion control and then I try to stick to ketogenic approved items and try my best to avoid rice, bread, yam etc. I slacked for a while but now I am back on it. I try to schedule in workouts, 20 minutes per day. 20 minutes a day for me as a mom is a lot of time considering all I do but I am going to push through with it. With regards to activities it could be a walk, example you are trying to get to the market, walk. Wear comfortable shoes, do fast brisk walking, go down the road to buy something, do something. Some form of intense activity for 20 minutes, do portion control and watch your intake. Don’t sweat the small stuff, yes you will have a piece chocolate one of these days, a piece of cake another day you know, you need to just bear in mind the bigger picture always.